Let’s live more *Plan less* Enjoy what you have
When I was 15 I couldn’t wait to be 18 eighteen, I was so excited, because I thought life would be easier, I made an idea in my brain what life was supposed to be after you become old enough to drink alcohol in bars, when you are allowed to be a part of the night life, when you are responsible to pick the right party to govern your country, I thought I would know it all by then- have all the answers and that prized freedom. I had a plan, a master plan, stupid me, because I thought If I plan everything, thing will turn the way I wanted it. (“If you want to make God laugh, tell him about your plans.”-Woody Allen) I started university in 2007 (Faculty of Architecture) my master plan was working perfectly and I was happy, because everything was turning out the way I wanted, not the way it was supposed to be, through the years I made different choices that made my master plan fail by default, thank God it did, because now I understand that the life we have is not ours. We make a plan, we make decisions, we skip things to make our life easier, but the life is not ours, it is just borrowed time. We are in 2013 and I am still studying at the university with a few classes left to graduate, that wasn’t how I planned things to turn out, but the best part is that my life (My borrowed Time) has changed. I have experienced great, wonderful, amazing things that I wouldn’t trade just to have my architect degree last year, which is when I was supposed to graduate.
Something that I have learned from the years, from the books I have read is: that the best university in life is, TRAVELING, nothing can substitute experience. Meeting people from exotic cultures will teach you that the way you look at the world (perhaps through the lens of mass media) is not the way everybody does it. That you could in fact, be wrong about it. Seeing it for yourself brings a healthy dose of reality to your thinking.
I have started to think about how easy it is to become controlled by our age and the expectation of what your age signifies to everyone else; How old you should be by the time you graduate? Buy your first house? Get married? Have kids? Move out of your parents’ house? Suddenly it seems like there are all these standards to meet, even when they don’t match the goals you are trying to reach. Forget molds, because as easy it is to forget, you are free to do what you want with your life, the problem is, that can be quite the responsibility, to live your life the way you want to, rather than they way you are expected to, especially if that means taking a big jump and especially when that jump may feel like a free fall, maybe quit your first job and go back to school if that feels right, get married or don’t, maybe you drop out of school or chop off your hair, maybe you change your mind, end a relationship that no longer serves you, become a different person, maybe you move away or move back home, or maybe you are scared to do these things because it is uncomfortable and unexpected, maybe it is because you do not know if everything would fall into place or you are scared what that would mean if it did.
Life is just ONE and if we do not live it the way we want it, do the things we love, instead of doing the things society has established for us, we are going to die without enjoying our borrowed Time.
Some years ago my friends used to ask me this: If you have the money what would you do? Buy a car or travel. My answer was simple and it is still simple, travel. The memories that you keep, the experiences, the people that you will meet, no one will be able to take those treasures things that you have gained. When I finish my career I am going to travel through Europe and then I will finish in Morocco (God willing), I can’t wait to that new stage of my life to start.
What I really mean to say is that I hope you aren’t held back because of a number, and that you don’t rush into things because it feels like time is slipping by. I hope you do what is right for you. Hold on, slow down and breathe in. Your age is your age, but more importantly, your life is your life, don’t change your journey so that it matches someone else’s. We need to walk different paths so the whole world can be explored, revel in the differences and enjoy your Time while you are here.
I am 25 years old now and if you ask me how do I see myself in 6 years from now, I probably won’t have an answer for that. I have goals and dreams that I want to accomplish before I am 30, but some things are not up to me. So let’s live more, plan less, enjoy what you have and change what you do not like about your borrowed time. I will end this with a quote that I love by Eleanor Roosevelt: “Believe in the beauty of your dreams”, because of that, I believe in what I want, I chase my dreams like crazy, that’s the only way we can achieve moments of happiness.
Ps: Today I plan less and live more. I hope you do the same.